Friday, December 24, 2010

Flipping The Script

Well recently a friend and I were having a conversation about the arguments that she has with her boyfriend; where no matter what responsibility he holds for fucking over their relationship, he is always able to turn it on her. Of course she was upset because her boyfriend hasn't been attentive in their relationship for a while, but when they argue he damn near convinces her that she is to blame.
Now I know many women have experienced this with men(hell men have experienced it with women or women with women and men with men, I'm not judging), no matter how right you really are, you are wrong. Plain and simple you will lose your breath trying to argue with them and they will be on their death bed claiming innocence unless you learn to recognize and utilize the art of flipping the script.

WTF?
What is flipping the script? The ultimate excuse that can damn near acquit a person for murder if they got like that; but for all intents and purposes in this blog it's defined as making the wrong the right?

Example

You say: Baby you don't come to see me no more

He says: You don't come to see me no more either

You say: You claim to always be busy when I call

He says: You always call when I'm busy

You say: Are you cheating on me

He says: You're gonna push me to cheat with how you acting

Now you had some legit complaints and concerns, but that conversation got nothing accomplished Why? You say, because of good flipping the script tactics baby.
(1)Now a good flipping the script tactic is to start your answer off with the term you, as no not my fault but yours.

Ex:
Question: Why weren't you home last night?

Your flip the script answer: You didn't tell me you wanted me home last night.


(2)It is also smart to answer the question with a question, therefore not answering a damn thing at all

Ex:
Question: Why were you out so late last night?

Your flip the script answer: You think that's late?

(3) Confidence and resilience is key. You have to sound like you really believe the bullshit that you're selling, so you need to sound confident in your retort. Also it's important to never concede to defeat and that takes resilience especially when you know your wrong.

Double Flipping:
How to beat a flipper at their own game? Simple, flip back. The same methods that we use to flip can easily be applied to a double flip. Let's use a example from earlier,

Ex:
Question: Why were you out so late last night?

Your flip the script answer: You think that's late?

Double flip answer: You don't think that's late?

Now see what you just did you beat the flipper at their own game thus allowing you to equal out the conversation and allow you to get back to your earlier question, which should be your ultimate goal.

Warning: Good Flippers will argue in circles and never get anything accomplished

...But it is good to be the flipper in the relationship

Peace love and Soul
sHORTY out